A link to a video just popped up on Twitter from Wayne Dyer (a genius spiritual health writer) entitled “You’re So Sensitive”. Immediately my brain pinged as this is what I’ve been thinking about a lot recently. Bipolar and Borderline Personality often include the characteristic of High Interpersonal Sensitivity. I would like to add Environmental Sensitivity to that also. Elaine Aron also has written a marvellous book entitled The Highly Sensitive Person which highlights the issues of those born with high sensitivity- apparently an ever increasing number.
Coincidentally I already own the book mentioned: The Art of Extreme Self-Care, and to hear Cheryl Richardson talking about sensitivity in such a positive light is so inspiring. The idea that sensitivity is something we need to protect, nurture and cherish is really liberating.
One of the protective measures she suggests is to limit contact with negative, criticising people who drain your energy. It is important for us to be around positive people who we are free to be our authentic self with- we feel safe to do this with them: safe from judgement or disapproval. This is so inline with my post yesterday about the development of an inauthentic self as a result of insecure parenting: Free To Be Average. To free ourselves from inauthenticity we can limit contact with those who see only the inauthentic child they’ve moulded to their preferences. In this way we are creating boundaries. These boundaries create our own private “space”, where we are free to be ourselves.
Other suggestions Cheryl mentions to protect our sensitivity are as follows:
– Turn down the noise! On TVs, iPods, stereos, phone ringtones etc.
– Keep technology at a distance. I have a technology free room at home all to myself as my boyfriend is a web developer and gadget freak! He is also very partial to his cinema surround-sound system which tends to blast the roof off most days.
– Turn off the violence- don’t watch the news, or violent films/TV. Don’t read newspapers. Mostly easy, but I don’t think I could live without Game of Thrones at the moment though!
So what’s the point in protecting our sensitivity?
Well, as well as being much more relaxed in body and mind and free to be ourselves, our empathic, creative natures will be thriving. People like us ARE needed in the world, just not valued as highly! We need to change that! Where would we be without beautiful art, music, great thinkers, philosophers, film directors, actors, actresses, singers, composers, teachers, counsellors, psychotherapists (indeed!), inspirational speakers and extremely caring friends? The world would be a very dull place indeed!
Be Gentle With Yourself by Word from the Well.
Wayne W Dyer– wonderful books for spiritual development and helping understand our purpose in life.