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A World Changed- What do We Need to Do?

Whether or not you are particularly spiritual, oracle cards can be a fun focus for personal development, and more often than not you’ll find yourself pulling out cards randomly and finding that they relate accurately to issues that are currently at play in your life. Many cards come with little books that offer interpretations, but you’ll likely find ideas present themselves to you as you think about the card, or journal out your thoughts.

Like the rest of the world, I’ve recently been drawn in to the media to keep up to date with the latest COVID-19 developments. This morning I really wanted to get my cards out and connect with Spirit to find out why the virus is happening, and how I can help.

There was me expecting that I could offer channeled wisdom for the collective, when Spirit firmly put me in my place with a wink and a nudge, and all the cards strongly suggested to retreat, be alone, connect with Spirit, and focus on my health. I practically laughed out loud, as my grand thoughts were so way off base! I love that our guides and angels can make us laugh at ourselves, they can be so playful.

“Turn off the TV.
Turn off the internet.
Remember what I love.
Remember who I am.
Go and play the flute and piano, and sing, and spend time with my husband and dog.
Get in touch with myself through journalling and meditating.
Go get the paints out.
Have fun.”

This is a prime time to remember what is important to us. The majority of us at the moment are waiting for the uncertainty to unfold. It is easy to be gripped by fear and glued to the news. ( I, for one, can get very obsessive and my own mental health can easily start to spiral out of control).

The message is to go within, and to focus on our own little worlds. We have power here to affect change through our attitudes and hearts. Yes, we have some power! We don’t have to let ourselves feel so powerless. Little deeds of love lift vibrations in our little worlds. Little deeds of love include loving ourselves as much as anyone else and cultivating the things we love in our lives- for me this is music, art and spiritual development, as well as the more obvious relationships. If we take care of ourselves, we are in a much better condition to help others with our hearts wide open. Helping from a place of fatigue and with a closed heart is not really helping to uplift the vibration- as well as feeling bad ourselves, those who we are “helping” can sense this and easily feel guilty and that they are being a burden. Not very helpful for the collective vibration.

My own feelings are that the economy and world leadership are going to change considerably.

Our lives are going to be led less by consumerism, individual success, and power, and more by communities and family life. We will all be reminded of how rich our lives truly are, and that we have so much to share with other people.

There will be much more focus on wholeness, and oneness. I think this is why we are being brought back to ourselves. Being whole starts with each one of us individually. When we are healing from past traumas, events, relationships, abuse, disappointments, or losses, the fractured parts of our soul are being brought back together and making peace with each other. We are forgiving ourselves, learning to love ourselves. Wholeness starts within each of our hearts- with unconditional love for ourselves. This time is one of great opportunity to heal our own soul. A world full of healed hearts is a place of peace, not one of war. There will always be challenges for we need them to grow, but this is a chance to step forward into the light, up one rung of the ladder towards a more peaceful, harmonious world.

Already we are being reminded of our oneness- every continent is being affected by the same virus, by the same problems. We are all together in this and for the first time I can remember, it feels as if the world is joined by one thing. Let it be that this virus does not destroy us, but helps our hearts grow in light, for love is not a fluffy emotion, but the strongest, most powerful force we can imagine.



What if “the story” is the answer?

I’ve recently discovered Matt Kahn on You Tube. If you haven’t seen or heard of him, he is a spiritual healer and speaker who just seems brimming with wisdom and what, to me, feels like truth. (As a bonus he also happens to be hilarious!)

Some spiritual teachers talk of not getting stuck in “your story”- referring to our tendency as human beings to replay our past and over-identify with our traumas. I think they mean this is the sense that we shouldn’t wallow in self-pity and nurture victimhood and resentment, which may seem like a very sensible thing, and perhaps easier to accomplish when you are out the other side of the tunnel.

But Matt Kahn speaks of how this can seem a very rejecting and unkind thing to do for ourselves. Most of us have been through some shit!! To be told to stop wallowing in “our story” is a kick in the teeth when many of us are perhaps hopelessly entangled in it, and perhaps haven’t finished working and learning from our pain. We might not have finished being angry and resentful- we might need to be angry and resentful in order to heal further.

He talks more of self-compassion, and loving this angry part of ourselves unconditionally. This part of us that is still attached and in the grips of whatever abuse, neglect, or loss we’ve endured- this part needs our love more than anything, not to be told to suck it up and stop wallowing. The way out of the tangle and mess of our past traumas is loving and accepting ourselves when every single part of us IS “our story”. We may not always be so identified with it, but when we are, to be told to reject it is to be told to reject ourselves. That is pretty harsh and not very helpful in my opinion.

I think that everyone can be helped in different ways. I find loving and accepting ourselves when we are entwined with “out story” to be much kinder and more compassionate than to be told to just get over it and move on. For some people this might even be abandoning their inner child even more, when what they need is to be guided gently through the pain by our loving adult selves. Of course some people might need the firmer approach, it might be totally appropriate for them, but I’m not one of them.

Matt Kahn on You Tube – the funniest spiritual teacher I’ve discovered!

Depression, Reiki & New Relationships

ID-10023748Tomorrow I’m going away for the weekend to complete attunements in Angelic Reiki I and II.

I’m really interested to see how the weekend unfolds, especially as depression seems to be tightening its grip.

I’m at that point where trying to change negative thoughts to positive, and look at the things I’m grateful for, is really not coming very easily. And I have to remember that it’s okay to feel this way!

My past experience with Reiki is that it brings up repressed emotions and buried trauma for healing. I think this will be a good thing though, as what I probably need more than anything is a good cry and some emotional release! It’s better than feeling numb and lifeless!

I think I’m going through an angry phase! I’ve had such a fantastic year in so many ways and one of the major blessings has been meeting my boyfriend who is fantastic!

ID-1007068I think I’m feeling so angry though because I wanted things to go according to my plan (which they haven’t):

– be financially independent by working in a stable job to prove to this person that I am capable of it and that my Bipolar symptoms have no power over me!!!!

Ha ha!!! That sounds so funny!! I really do expect a lot of myself don’t I?! Well, it’s good to laugh about it now! I can’t force myself into this little box!

God has another plan and I intend to surrender to that, because I know it’ll work out way better than mine!!

I want to accept that my boyfriend loves me for me (which I know he does). I’m not depressed all the time. It comes in episodes and he knows I have these issues from time to time, so it is a good thing that he can see how things will be with me. I can’t force myself to be someone I’m not.

I intend to remember the parts of me I love too.

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To Write Love On Her Arms

 To Write Love On Her Arms is a U.S-based organisation which aims to raise awareness of mental health issues, reduce suicide rates and provide hope to the many who are feeling trapped by depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide. They achieve this through their blog, work in schools, colleges, and out on the streets.

 

To Write Love On Her Arms: The Story

The organisation began as a blog, after the founder, Jamie Tworkowski, wrote a short piece, which went viral over the internet, about her friend who struggled with self-injury and addiction. The story was called To Write Love On Her Arms.

Vision & Beliefs

What I love about this organisation is their vision, and their beliefs:

“You were created to love and be loved.
You were meant to live life in relationship with other people, to know and be known.
You need to know your story is important, and you’re part of a bigger story.
You need to know your life matters.”

Their t-shirts (sold to make many for the organisation) bear slogans, such as:

“Hold on, I am still alive.”

“We will be the hopeful.”

“Let us not be silent.”

“Wake up. You’re still alive. We’re on your side.”

“People need other people.”

Their message is one of hope, love, support, positivity, and the importance of community. They talk of the strength and courage it takes to live everyday struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury and suicide. We are the strong!

The Unseen Courageous is an article on their blog which illustrates this point perfectly.

Start A Conversation: Let’s Talk About Mental Health And Support Each Other!

Awareness is also promoted through their t-shirts, bearing the logo “To Write Love On Her Arms”. The slogan is a real conversation starter, which then offers the opportunity for you to tell the story of the organisation, your own story, or that of someone you love. Today is the day to start talking about mental health issues! The chances are that the person you are talking to has either experienced mental health issues themselves, or knows someone who has. Talking helps us all feel less alone and lets others know that there is help out there. Create an opportunity to share your experiences and support other people!

Now is the time to banish the shame felt through stigma and silence!

Resources

To Write Love On Her Arms

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