Current Bach Flower Remedies I’m taking:
Vine, Vervain, Chestnut Bud, Cherry Plum, Impatiens, Centaury, Cerato
Focus on Chestnut Bud: for those who don’t seem able to focus and learn from any experience but instead keep repeating them, and make the same mistakes over and over again.
Other remedies mentioned:
Cerato– lacking in confidence in own inner voice or intuition, seeking answers externally.
Centaury– service and dedication to a cause turn the person into a doormat, and they are unable to say no to any request.
I’ve been thinking about the Chestnut Bud remedy and how it can help long-term with my relentless binge eating, which I just can’t seem to get control of. It’s been going on for years. Sometimes I feel willing to stop, and I think it is the willingness that is the first step. There are many times when I don’t feel willing at all, and Little Rachel is kicking and screaming to carry on. If I think about it in terms of immediately stopping and never bingeing again, it feels like a mountain to be climbed. What has become more apparent whilst taking Chestnut Bud, are the little ways in which I can help myself.
I’ve noticed positive reasons to abstain popping into my head; for example: feeling better! It sounds really obvious, but I never consider this seriously each day- the impulsivity usually takes over. I can get through the day without feeling sick and de-energised from a binge and this is what I want more than the other alternative! I can feel more productive and motivated to get on with something more enjoyable!
Enjoyable activities are also something I’ve been trying again- even just little periods of playing the piano, colouring, doodling etc. I’ve even started reading a novel! It’s been a long time since I’ve read anything other than non-fiction, mainly spiritual and personal development-type stuff. It’s Sophie Kinsella’s “What’s Your Number”- light, fluffy and amusing, and I’m enjoying it! A purposeful step away from losing myself on the internet or television, or both at the same time. It’s also more relaxing and peaceful which is a bonus.
Another little thing has been having a yoghurt after dinner instead of ice cream or cake. Another fairly obvious thing, but I think the Chestnut Bud is really helping me to be present in my decision making, rather than floating up in my head lost in thoughts and then acting impulsively.
I think the Cerato is helping too as I’m actually listening to and trusting my own intuition with all these little ideas.
A block for me has been with art. I’ve always been such a perfectionist, and my drawings have always been very detailed and as realistic as I can make them. It’s become a very tight, tension-building experience, and it is no wonder I’ve not enjoyed it at all for a long time. So to get to the point where I’m actually sitting down and doodling, just enjoying the process rather than focusing on the end result, is a real achievement. Normally I’d be filled with thoughts of “what’s the point just doodling? It’s not leading to a beautifully finished wall-mountable work”. I’m actually letting myself have fun!!
Does Centaury help with setting boundaries for your own behaviours? I certainly feel like I have an unruly child part of my personality, Little Rachel wanting all the cake etc. I think Centaury is helping me to be more disciplined with her, and saying no in certain situations.
So far, so good with this combination for the binge eating.